As most of the people who read this blog know, I had a profile on OkCupid. Yes, you heard me right, HAD. I just disabled it. Perhaps some time down the road I will enable it again and see what awaits me there but for now I've come to the conclusion I need to spend time with the people I have in my life now rather than bringing more people in.
The reason I joined OkC was to make new friends/maybe find a boyfriend/to work on being a professional creep. I also joined because a few of my friends had profiles and it seemed they were having a good time. So, with Griswoldian imaginings of what OkC would be like, I made a profile.
Rather than go into a detailed timeline of my short experience, I'll sum it up with the trite "it was alright". I made some promising connections with people who I found interesting. I even exchanged thesis papers with someone. But I had my share of people who didn't take the time to read my profile, who only looked at my pictures and then sent me poorly veiled requests to video chat. So it was a mix of great and not so great. I never went on any dates with any of these people. At the time it seemed like scheduling conflicts or forgetfulness, but I've decided things didn't work out because subconsciously I didn't want them to. When Irene knocked out the power (and internet for those of us without smart phones) for 5 days...I was happy without the internet. I was enjoying my time with my family and focused on work. Life was simpler without the added burden of responding to numerous messages and the pressure of thinking of interesting things to say. Not to mention all of the things I projected onto these poor people. I assumed that I would hurt someone's feelings if I didn't respond to their message. Then I felt bad if I wasn't super nice to someone (that doesn't mean I was always nice) and THEN I felt bad if I didn't continue the "conversation". All that bullshit just kept piling up until I was blissfully free for those 5 days. I came to the conclusion it was time to get rid of it.
Originally this was supposed to be an interesting post full of wit and humor and whatnot. But now I've forgotten the punch line. Perhaps the joke is that I wasn't even cut out for a dating site.
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MeggyB
